Is a “Little Anger” OK?

(Below is an excerpt of an email from Dr. S. M. Davis who has brilliant, helpful sermon counselling videos)

I had given my message on “
ANGER THE DESTROYER” at a church and was standi
ng at my table in the church’s foyer. A man came walking up to me and with an Angry Spirit (that he didn’t know he had) said, “Well, I heard everything you just said and I still think a little anger is alright! The difference in you and me is that you raised all girls and I had a houseful of boys and if you don’t get angry with boys sometime they won’t do what you want them to do! You have to have anger if you’re going to raise boys!”
Wow! Where do I start in answering that?!
I assured him that I knew what it was like to use anger when…
…my girls were coming up and that was a key reason my girls struggled. God had to show me how destructive my anger truly was.
And yes, there are differences in how you may deal with boys and girls. But anger will not help in dealing with either one!

The main verses I wish I would’ve thought to share with him were
Colossians 3:8 and 21 – “But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.”

Notice that anger is in the same classification as “blasphemy” and “filthy communication.”

Is it alright to have a “little blasphemy?”
Is it alright to have a “little filthy communication?”
Is it alright to have a “little anger?”
Colossians 3:21 says, “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”

A father or mother’s anger produces discouragement in a child. This is the only place the word “discourage” is used in the entire New Testament and God is very concerned that children in particular not get discouraged.

Since nothing provokes to anger like anger, even a “little anger” may produce discouragement and a feeling of hopelessness in a child.

Some people may ask, “But didn’t Jesus get angry? And isn’t there a verse that says, ‘Be ye angry, and sin not’?
I answer both of those objections in the message: “

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